in real life you will probably not respond to harassment in a sexy, clever, scripted way where you come out with the upper hand and everyone claps. you will freeze up and your moment will pass, or your voice will shake when you tell them to stop and youโll realize two minutes later that youโre gross and sweaty and sticky from the adrenaline. maybe youโll be on the ball and answer in a way you actually think is pretty smart and get ignored, or theyโll get more aggressive when you mouth off to them. you almost never will walk away feeling victorious. you walk away feeling uncomfortable and relieved that itโs over. youโll think about it later and imagine that maybe you could have said something else. maybe youโll feel ashamed that you werenโt quicker-witted, werenโt able to cut them down to size, werenโt able to avoid that lingering sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, as though thereโs some kind of magical words you could have said that would have left you feeling less powerless. there really arenโt.