i think heterosexuality does have sexual revolutionary potential to the same extent that homosexuality does. its just that patriarchal society restricts m/f relationships so much that we don't recognize their true potential. like at its best, you are connecting with someone of a different gender- even your "opposite"- and through that connection you end up seeing yourself in them. im not even talking about "getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side" shit im talking about loving/lusting someone so much that you feel they are a part of you, and through that you demystify the other gender and feel profoundly tied to the issues they face. the patriarchy restrains straightness by forcing people in love/lust to always keep a wall between them, to insist on the idea that men and women speak a different language, to still see even the person they love/desire as an Other. a new, freer vision of straightness is one that inevitably fosters genderfuckery and inter-gender solidarity. heterosexual love and lust, freed from its restraints, has the power to shake up the basic patriarchal ideas of how men and women are supposed to relate to each other as "opposites." and this is why bi+ and transhet people are send by God to heal society thank you for coming to my tedtalk

I’ve recently met a straight couple who have this vibe so strong. They might as well be queer. At least insofar as they’ve said “fuck off” to the patriarchy and everything it stands for.

My parents are like that, my brother is a transhet man (he/him) and he has a gf (and everyone cheered!) and I am bi and genderqueer. Normalize not gendering chores and being equally down bad for each other!!

I think this is also why some cishet (appearing) romances are so popular. Specific ones that queer people latch onto. Thinking of Gomez and Morticia, Percy and Annabeth, Hiccup and Astrid, Elizabeth and Darcy, Beatrice and Benedict, etc etc. These pairings can definitely be queer, but I think it's the vibes of having a solid foundation for a relationship without cisheteronormative unhealthy nonsense. And they're all really good pairings!! :D

i think heterosexuality does have sexual revolutionary potential to the same extent that homosexuality does. its just that patriarchal society restricts m/f relationships so much that we don't recognize their true potential. like at its best, you are connecting with someone of a different gender- even your "opposite"- and through that connection you end up seeing yourself in them. im not even talking about "getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side" shit im talking about loving/lusting someone so much that you feel they are a part of you, and through that you demystify the other gender and feel profoundly tied to the issues they face. the patriarchy restrains straightness by forcing people in love/lust to always keep a wall between them, to insist on the idea that men and women speak a different language, to still see even the person they love/desire as an Other. a new, freer vision of straightness is one that inevitably fosters genderfuckery and inter-gender solidarity. heterosexual love and lust, freed from its restraints, has the power to shake up the basic patriarchal ideas of how men and women are supposed to relate to each other as "opposites." and this is why bi+ and transhet people are send by God to heal society thank you for coming to my tedtalk

I’ve recently met a straight couple who have this vibe so strong. They might as well be queer. At least insofar as they’ve said “fuck off” to the patriarchy and everything it stands for.

My parents are like that, my brother is a transhet man (he/him) and he has a gf (and everyone cheered!) and I am bi and genderqueer. Normalize not gendering chores and being equally down bad for each other!!

i think heterosexuality does have sexual revolutionary potential to the same extent that homosexuality does. its just that patriarchal society restricts m/f relationships so much that we don't recognize their true potential. like at its best, you are connecting with someone of a different gender- even your "opposite"- and through that connection you end up seeing yourself in them. im not even talking about "getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side" shit im talking about loving/lusting someone so much that you feel they are a part of you, and through that you demystify the other gender and feel profoundly tied to the issues they face. the patriarchy restrains straightness by forcing people in love/lust to always keep a wall between them, to insist on the idea that men and women speak a different language, to still see even the person they love/desire as an Other. a new, freer vision of straightness is one that inevitably fosters genderfuckery and inter-gender solidarity. heterosexual love and lust, freed from its restraints, has the power to shake up the basic patriarchal ideas of how men and women are supposed to relate to each other as "opposites." and this is why bi+ and transhet people are send by God to heal society thank you for coming to my tedtalk

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It starts early. Doctors and others will say to ignore a baby's cries so they can learn to "self soothe." And it continues all the way through school, then into the workplace, and can even carry over into personal relationships. Hell, a lot of us hear it so much we end up doing it to ourselves:

The denial of other people's needs in order to avoid being inconvenienced by them.

We want to start early by making babies more convenient, so that the children are more convenient for the teachers, and then the adults are more convenient for the employers and society at large.

This is just the way much of the world works; everyone will have their needs denied for the sake of convenience at some point. But autistic, ADHD, and otherwise disabled people will experience this at every turn because so many of our needs are not met by the status quo.

Which means schools and workplaces and service providers and more have gotten really creative with all the ways they can deny we even have a need in the first place. 'Cause if they admit there's a need, they might have to <gasp> DO something about it. And we simply can't have that.

So here are some of the many coded words/phrases that someone might use to deny the presence of needs so as not to be inconvenienced by them. How many have you heard?

We need to talk about (AMC’s IWTV) biphobia: part 1: bi erasure - by bi radical on Wordpress

And before someone starts whining in my inbox for elevating valid bi criticism adjacent to the bi-est vampire universe on earth 1) I won’t answer. 2) anon is off. 3) I’m bi. 4) the show is good but this is a valid complaint, and…

psa lestat is not omnisexual he is not pansexual he’s BISEXUAL. thank you that’s all

I need people to stop glorifying the 4B movement in Korea, from a Western (white) perspective. Stop it. If you are blissfully unaware of this (having not been on TikTok) - in theory, it makes sense. No sex with men, no dating men, no child rearing with men, and no marriage with men. But. BUT. Feminists in Korea are problematic AF. I know this from both personal experience (having been on the receiving end of their ire online) and everything I've read about them, in Korean. I see all these white TikTokers (and even some in the Korean diaspora) fawning over how "we" in the US need this and, no. If your feminism is transphobic, hates gay men, hates men in general, that's not the feminism I'd endorse. Why is Korean feminism transphobic? In 2020, Korean feminists ACTIVELY CAMPAIGNED AGAINST a woman who was accepted to Sookmyung University. An all womens' university. But she was a woman, you say. What could be their problem? According to Korean feminists, they didn't want a "man" in their space. Because she is a trans woman. This is not unusual for Korean feminists. Having lived there for 5 years, to some extent, I understand their anger against misogyny. But if you are truly against the toxic patriarchy that exists in Korea, you must also help dismantle military conscription because that is where a lot of men become radicalized, bullied, etc etc and "grow up" to be the most toxic form of men seen on this earth. But Korean feminists don't give AF about that and in fact, I've read a lot of them express that it's good for men to suffer. Guess what? That view is internalized misogyny and toxic patriarchy, too. And I don't want to hear it about the movement being so "young". Korean women have stepped up to the plate before in our history. We are capable of better than this fucking nonsense. It's a bunch of transphobic, gay hating radicals that have hijacked what was supposed to be about social justice. WOMAD (link is to the Wikipedia article, not their site) and Megalia are the two sites they stem from. It is the most toxic group of people I've ever had the displeasure to encounter online. Any form of criticism is, at best, ignored and worst - I've been "called out" for being Korean-American, and therefore, to "butt out" of "Korean issues". Amongst other bullying I've personally received. And yes, not just on forums but on public articles that I've commented on.

I know it's a catchy title and it appeals in theory but please, please do not glorify these transphobes and TERFs. They don't deserve your attention.

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